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Maybe the best thing to do is pull back from relationship mode and let yourself process the betrayal within some emotional breathing space, giving the situation a chance to heal.

This is a lifestyle choice some people actually celebrate!

http://www.celibrate.org/benefits.php

From the Mayo Clinic website:

“Infidelity causes intense emotional pain — anger, disbelief, fear, guilt, shame. But an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. Understand how a marriage can be rebuilt after an affair…

* Get support. For your own well-being, seek support from family, friends, a pastor or counselor — people you trust and feel comfortable with. Talking about your feelings with those you love can help you cope with the intensity of the situation. Objective support can help you clarify what you’re feeling and put the affair into perspective.

* Give each other some space. Both partners need a break from the emotional stress generated by the discovery of an affair. Although difficult, experts advise taking a “timeout” when emotions are running high.

* Take time. Avoid delving into the intimate details of the affair with your partner at first. Postpone such discussions until you can talk without being overly accusatory or destructive. Take time to absorb the situation. You may need to air out your feelings with someone who is a good listener before you can have a constructive conversation with your spouse.”

Visit the Mayo Clinic website

Okay, so you’ve surveilled your Significant Other — and sure enough, they’re fooling around.

Now what? Are there any options other than an angry confrontation likely leading to break-up and divorce?

Of course! All it takes is a little thinking outside that angry emotional box in which you find yourself. Once you get over the urge to throw-da-bum-outta-here, you might want to consider the following courses of action I will lay out in following posts.

There’s one surefire way to prevent her/him from cheating — remove the concept of “cheating” from your relationship!

Are you open to “open relationships”?

There are polyamory social networks that can provide information for those who recognize that in this day and age more often than not people stray and have flings even while being in love with their partners.

There is the Polyamory Society, for instance, a non-profit organization which promotes and supports people involved in multi-partner relationships.

http://www.polyamorysociety.org